Using Love Language Quiz
Love Language explain
The love language quiz is a simple tool I use with most couples and some individuals. The main purpose of the quiz is to be a conversation starter of how each person prefers to be loved. Oftentimes, we make the assumption that the way someone else prefers to be loved is the same as how we prefer to be loved. This tool helps jump start that conversation and gives language for how to discover how you or your partner prefers to be loved. The 5 love languages are: Affirmation (using words to build someone up), Acts of Service (helping someone by doing a physical service), Gifts (investing in someone), Quality Time (spending time together during a shared experience), and Physical Touch (non-sexual physical touch).
How to use this as a Couple
The quickest way to increase emotional and physical intimacy between you and your partner is to understand each other’s needs. This quiz will enable you to begin that conversation by sharing each others’ ranked love languages so that each of you can be better understood. Asking specific questions concerning each language will be important to understanding, such as: “I see Quality Time is your number one, what is quality time do you specifically enjoy?” Beginning conversations about intimacy (verbal, non-verbal, non-sexual, and sexual allike) will be an amazing first step in understanding one another.
How to use this as an Individual
Not only is this tool great for couples, but also for individual use as well. My favorite way to use this is to change the question from Love Language for a couple to Self Love Language. Even in the context of couples, using this tool in this way can enable you to love yourself even more which will give you fuel to love others. For instance, Words of Affirmation can be rephrased to “How are you using positive self-talk to build yourself up?” Understanding your own needs will be a great starting point for finding what you want out of a partner.
PS: If you are looking for the quiz, here is a link that works at the moment: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ If this does not work (or isn’t free anymore) then simply search for the love language quiz for free in your search engine.